Don’t rush. What’s meant to be yours will be yours! Allow some time for you to get started with the things you need to start doing.
Pack in your patience too. As you might not see the desired results you wanted to see just yet! Ask for some Guidance as you wait patiently.
Figure out exactly what you want and where you want to go, then work your way to it! ❤️
When your to-do list gets too much to handle, don’t be shy enough to ask for assistance. When that’s the answer delegate work to be done to people you trust!
Be grateful for all the things that you have going for you in your life! Be confident as well.
Make sure to prioritize which ones need your immediate attention first!
Things can get done when you multitask and juggle and are surely a success. If by chance your things get quiet, expect to see a big increase of action.
Your juggling may represent a family, new career opportunisties, a new love interest, your health, your home, big things to have on your plate. Don’t work alone. Ask for help. There are many kinds of stress! Good can also come out of this!
Everywhere you go you will find at least one of those if not more. Let’s face it, they are literally everywhere and if you’re not careful you’ll fall into their web of negativism which is easy to fall in and harder to fall out of.
How do you stop them? You can’t really stop them. People are what they are! You can however, recognize them from afar by their interactions so that when they do come to you, their attitude won’t influence you in the slightest way. Remember it’s only half the battle when you’re prepared for what you’re up against. They are everywhere. They are in your class. They work with you. They are part of your family. They were standing behind you in line while you were waiting for your coffee from the barista. They belong to your church group. Well enough said you get the picture!
Here are just a few tips on how to deal with Negative People.
1. Set Boundaries
Negative people will always come into your life one way or the other. Sometimes more than once a day. With them they will bring that negative attitude. The one that says, “woe is me” kind of attitude. They will try their best to suck you into that whirlwind mindset and if you’re not careful they can succeed. The best thing to do is set limits. Do your best to keep interactions short as possible. Always keep a distance between each other so their energy won’t affect you.
2. Choose Your Battles
People will do anything to irritate you. Some might not realize what they are doing and some might do it on purpose. Not all battles are worthy of your response. Don’t waste your energy on people that are not deserving of it. Do your best to ignore any negative comments. Be aware of your surroundings and who’s in it. Would you like your little sister or mother to watch you lose your temper? If the answer is most certainly “no”, than the best thing is to control your emotions so you can prevent things from escalating. If nothing else helps just walk away.
3. Avoid Complainers
People who complain about anything will not bring out the best in you, what they want is to bring out the worst. Misery loves company so much that many of them will want you to join them in their crusade. Whatever good is happening to you they will always find something to criticize and eventually bring you down. Stay clear from them and only deal with them if you really have to.
4. Negative Co-Workers or Employees
For any business to excel, it definitely has to be the face of the company to make things happen. If you have a frontline man showing signs of toxic behaviors, the overall business will slowly begin to feel jeopardized. One staff member with obvious types of negative thinking and bad attitudes can cause customers to think twice before adhering to a service. Perhaps the person is going through a rough patch and is not fully aware of their demeanor. In cases like these a simple meeting to find out what is happening and convey your concerns and/or expectations can work wonders. Once enough time has been given to see a change and nothing has improved then it might be time to re-evaluate if the persons integrity fits with what you’re looking for as a team player.
One of the best ways to get closer to your child or children is to be involved more in their education. When you get involved in their School Activities you let your child or children know that you’re interested in their lives. You can get involved by being part of the Parents-Teachers Association, Volunteering on Field Trips or even in other ways.
1. Join the Parents-Teacher Association of your child’s school. By joining you will have an active part in working together with the teachers and principal as other parents too. Part of working together is discussing policies for the benefit of the children. As an active participant you will have your voice heard. You will be able to choose and see what’s working and what’s not working. Your ideas will be brought to the table for discussion in the monthly meetings. New program ideas are also discussed as also future field trips. Activities to raise funds for the school are also chosen with the help of the parents.
2. Being a Volunteer for Field trips is also a very valuable experience. Assisting your child’s teacher can be rewarding. Field trips are vital for your child’s education because they get to learn something that will be a positive reference in their education first hand. If your working you can always schedule a day off to participate. If you cannot make it, it’s always good to see if someone in your immediate family can go for, usually it’s a good time for a grandparent to partake in the education of their grandchild.
3. Another way to get involved is to be able to come in for an hour or two to either read to the class or assist in other activities that the teacher may be doing. If your good at a particular subject or in crafts, you could always teach a craft or teach the children to do their first painting. You can always help with baking. Or help with any invitations the school might need. During outdoor activities you can also volunteer for a couple of hours.
These are just some ideas but there are more. You could always call the school and find out how you can be of assistance. After all, making memories is what’s it’s all about!
You have the freedom to change. Don’t be afraid of changes. Changes often come with anticipation and can be welcoming by you.
At first, moving on can be a challenge because of the unknown. Your future is full of magic and bright.
You have choices whether it’s in your health, career or in your relationships.
You have choices. You can learn from your past and move forward, or you can be held back by it. Don’t let your past block you from your happiness.
Don’t let your past steal your joy! Release your past and move onward.
You have choices! ❤️
When we’re happy we want to tell the world, or the people that are close to us, because we think that other people will be happy too… Sometimes keeping our happiness and happy moments to ourselves is many times the answer. Perhaps like that happiness doesn’t have an expiration date and will last longer! Keep that secret to yourself and enjoy it! Remember not everyone has a good heart like yours ❤️✨
Having children can be the most exhilarating and yet the most frightening. You can go from zero to a hundred in a matter of seconds. Everything helps when you have a plan. Everything helps when you set goals and boundaries. Everything helps when you have a support group outside of your home. I put together a list of five helpful tips but I know there’s so much more. If only life was this simple. I probably do a second partake in the near future. With children there’s so much to talk about. I might not have a PHD in Child Psychology or Child Development but I have four kids. That should say it all. We are always learning and trying new methods to make life easier.
1. One of the best things you can do for your child is to show genuine interest. To lead by example is to be the kind of person you want your child to be. To figure out what your true values are and acting on them. They can be as simple as doing unto others what you want done to yourself. To never giving up on making your dreams come true. To know that it’s ok to ask for help when you feel a little overwhelmed and to not be too hard on yourself when things don’t go your way!
2. Show affection. No one ever said too much affection was a bad thing especially when kids are small but lack of affection causes a significant impact on a child’s behavior development causing them many times to act up. Don’t be afraid to give lots of hugs or shower them with kisses. It will do wonders for their self esteem. Some kids might be into high-fives or some prefer that you text them or write them sweet little notes. Find your way to show how much you care and appreciate them. They grow up so fast and will remember every second you demonstrated your love!
3. Be the parent that asks questions. Be the parent that shows up to practice and recitals. Be the parent that “shows up”. Be the one that’s present, and makes time for their child. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about what’s going on your child’s life. Ask questions about school, activities or interests. Be open and friendly to their friends. Ask questions about them. Be accepting of everyone.
4. Your child needs you to be clear, reasonable, consistent and lenient to their ever changing needs and choices as they grow older. Sometimes you are the one that’s saying “no” when other parents are just saying “yes”! At times it’s in everybody’s interest and has to be done for the long haul. Stressful frustrations can set in but setting boundaries and limits are important for developmental needs.
5. Look around you. Are there any adults outside of your immediate family that have a positive influence on your child’s life? Perhaps it’s his or her teacher that pushes them to practice writing their name and teaches them not to give up. Maybe they are in the swim team and the instructor pushes them a few more laps in the pool, to motivate them. Maybe they have a supervisor in charge of their routes where they deliver the Sunday newspaper teaching them commitment and responsibility. All parties can benefit from having supportive relationships.
No matter what knocks you down in life, get back up and keep going. Never give up. Great blessings are a result of great perseverance. ❤️
I’ve always heard that being a dad or mom was the hardest job around, but I never really gave it much thought until I became a mother myself and as I write I realize how really true that is.
It’s a job that doesn’t come with an instructions manual or manufacturing manual. Every day is an opportunity to learn. It’s with the mistakes that we assimilate our “trial and error”. We could have thousands of people give us endless advice, but at the end of the day, what counts is how we deal with situations and their stressful moments.
Everything begins the second the baby is a tiny seed with the countless hours of morning sickness in all times of the day. Our maternal instinct takes a hold of us while we carefully walk slowly to not slip and fall. That unbreakable bond grows along with love as soon as you discover you are not alone. There are things you can’t explain, only feel. You start to notice your clothes no longer fit you the way it used to. You don’t complain because you know it’s for a good purpose, the birth of your child which is priceless. Gradually that little one takes control over us, not letting us eat everything that we want without having his or hers approval first. To sleep or not to sleep? Depends on the position, otherwise you will feel a little tap letting you know to quickly move it.
All this loses its precedence the second you start to feel your little miracle moving inside of you that you helped create with a true feeling of LOVE. Your little bambino recognizes your sweet voice and the sound of your beating heart. Before your little one wants to make his or her debut, stress befalls you with questions of concern regarding labor. Will I do everything right? Will I be a good mother or father? The questions are overlong filled with doubts… Curiously what instantly calms the nerves is when someone reassures us that we’ll be great parents and when that big day arrives -gratitude and pure joy is what we feel on knowing how everything worked out well. What about the pain? What pain, that all is forgotten the moment you hold your baby for the first time. We grasp that we are so much stronger than we comprehend and with this strength we can do anything.
After the birth of your little angel come thousands of uncertainties. Cries and more cries… You’ve changed dirty diapers and you fed your little mini you but still the sobbing continues. Since communication is still not their forte, you have to put on your thinking cap and decipher what’s going on in that little ones soul. Colicky, tiredness or simply a tooth wanting to surprise everyone could be some of the culprits and all are reasons to keep you up at night. In times like these is when both parents have to put aside their thinking cap and now put on their patience hat just so they can attempt to clown around in hopes that the baby will forget about the pain that caused the tears.
Not always do tears have a concrete explanation. Sometimes they just want to be embraced in their parent’s arms or want to hear a lullaby that they remember hearing in the womb. Months go by and sleepless nights as well, and when that occurs you can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel as you realize that the small victories are really the big ones… Just like the first time your little one started crawling or the first reactions to certain foods worth documenting on camera. The joyous sounds your angel makes while laughing. The first steps taken without any assistance. Nothing compares to hearing “mama” or “dada” as the first words the very first time causing you to weep emotionally while you experience joy.
Once again time passes as it always will, and a little brother is born. There you will be introduced to the green eyed monster except this time it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your firstborn. The toys that they don’t want to share with the stranger that has been around now for some time but to a child that was an only child up until a few months ago, his sibling is still a stranger. Now comes the tough parts, instilling important values on our offspring. Sharing is of course one of them. Just like in all phases of life, there are ups and downs, all of which requires you to use your patience hat.
More so when you have three little ones and two eyes sure aren’t enough! Especially when all they want to do is explore as if they were little Christopher Columbus’s and they end up getting into trouble! It doesn’t matter how many times you say “no” they interpret as a “yes” and they only stop at timeouts. Than those tantrums surface and a cry triggers another cry that triggers another cry. When you have three small kids it’s a symphony of cries. It’s not too bad when you’re at home, but when you’re out in public it’s a different story. All eyes are gawking at your every move like vultures waiting for their prey. You look around embarrassed knowing that if there was a whole in the ground you’d jump in. You begin to transpire as you silently pray that this episode will stop. Then you realize, wait a minute these people don’t know anything about us to be judging, most likely they don’t even have any kids to know what it’s all about.
If they knew they would know that kids need a routine to know what is expected, and if you change it even a little bit, and it’s bound to happen because that’s what life is made of, change, you will throw them off. Unfortunately people will judge without knowing the facts. They don’t know if your child didn’t have his or her routine nap, or if they are hungry or even if they wanted that chocolate that you refused to give. However if they had kids they would sympathize and perhaps give a sigh of relief that it’s not their kids! If you give in boy are you in trouble! Being a parent is knowing when to say yes or no. It’s also curing wounds after the many falls. Which are many not because no one was looking but because you say “walk” and they automatically hear “run”. As a parent you’re working overtime every day. Your time for yourself happens when they are fast asleep that is when you don’t fall asleep yourself first after all that chasing around.
You do your best to plan your days but know that not everything goes as planned. It is making memories with your children. It’s being nervous on your child’s first day of school. Listening to the same stories being told countless times. It’s keeping a watchful eye when the fever doesn’t drop. It’s being present when the first tooth falls out and then convincing your child to sleep so that the tooth fairy can do her surprise visit. Its letting them sleep in bed with you when they are frightened at the lightening. You’re always going to be a parent your whole life. Even when they grow up and think they know it all, and have a lot of friends to go out with. All those sleepless nights come back again. You start to pray that your kids are not in the wrong place at the wrong time and come home safe… Do you still think a parent’s job is easy?