Be Extra Vigilant

 

This is the letter I wrote to the Principal of my autistic child’s school… please be extra vigilant to what your children are watching on television and the internet… 

 

I’m trying to comprehend what would make a six year old child, perhaps almost seven… nonetheless in Grade 1, place a substance in another child’s water bottle… with the intention of harming them!

I cannot fathom what would make a child who is merely innocent supposedly, using the words “making a potion to kill Sergio” at such a young age… As any parent, if it were their child, they would be livid! After speaking to Esko and Ameya ( I apologize if I wrote down her name wrong), they were kind enough to let me know what Maya S said… All the planning that was taken place… that is not appropriate for a six year old to do! 

Do you want to know what the strangest part of this is…. that yesterday my son did not have his dinner because he said his tummy was hurting and sadly I brushed it off, thinking that he was just making it up because soon bedtime would be approaching or he would be missing his favourite cartoon show! How do we know this hasn’t happened yet? Truly no one knows but the perpetrators really…

As if that isn’t heartbreaking enough, being autistic and this happening to you, but having it done by your best friend as well! So I guess that old adage is right, “with friends like these who needs enemies!’. Andreus and Sergio were like two peas in a pod, but I did correct myself when I said were! 

Something has to be done… and talking will not be enough… This isn’t like kids will be kids… one pushed one and the other pushed back… this is a serious issue and has to be dealt in that matter! They have to be suspended a day or two so they see how serious it is to place substances on other people’s water! Talking is not enough… talking about killing shouldn’t be in a child’s vocabulary! One thing that I regret was tearing up a paper that I received from Maya S before the Christmas Break which she wrote down things that weren’t so nice about Sergio… again I brushed it off! 

It’s really not fair that I have to keep Sergio in tomorrow and probably even Friday to give him time to digest everything and hopefully forget about while they go to school and get a slap on the wrist…

We would like a copy of everything documented and if nothing is done then I have no other choice but to go to the police because really that is what I should of done today! I’m not doing it only because I have faith in your team and that at least their poor choices will give them a consequence so that in the future they’re won’t be anymore copycats… This is very serious… it could have harmed my son and for that I am taking him to the doctor to get checked out tomorrow! 

Just last month there was a woman that was being poisoned by her co-worker at the Bay with Lysol… and she got fired and charged and young kids do this which is equally serious and alarming… talking is not enough in this situation! They have to feel the impact they’ve caused whether they realized it fully or not! 

This is a safety issue… How are we supposed to feel safe at work knowing that our child could be poisoned or seriously hurt! 

Thank-you for your time and understanding with us… we appreciate it… just like we know it may be very difficult for you too and we understand your tough position! We just want this to be dealt as a serious issue that it is! 

Lara and Sergio Maria 

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Love You to Infinity and Beyond ❤️

My seven year old was diagnosed with Autism last year and I wrote this for him just now… One day I’ll read it to him and let him know that he’s a present from up above!

My Sweet Sergio! Don’t ever let someone tell you that your weird or strange just because you have a strong interest on various subjects!

Keep learning and keep growing! Your sharp mind and keen interests will allow you to grow into a beautiful young man! You think outside the box! Who wants to learn what they want us to know and not what we would like! You outsmart any one of those classmates that are the first ones to ostracize you just because they don’t understand you! To me, it’s not that they don’t understand you but more because they are not open to exchange ideas… and we both know your full of ideas…. maybe they are just scared of what they could learn from you! 

That’s probably what it is…they don’t see how incredibly passionate you are about your topics of interest… They don’t see your beautiful mind because they keep seeing your “weirdness” and it’s stopping them from seeing your incredible heart!

Keep being yourself! We are all unique and   beautiful in our own way! If someone doesn’t like us for our own individuality than they miss out on having a friend for a lifetime! You deserve to be accepted for all that you are and bring to this beautiful world! 

I see that every day of your existence! I see your sorrow when all those around you are being invited to Birthday parties and your the one being left out! Be strong for we will celebrate your life every day and not just on one day in particular!

Keep wanting to learn about fans and washing machines or coins and elf’s … you have so much to teach us and we have so much to learn from you!

Believe in yourself! I do! I know you are capable of so much and one day, everyone else will know it too!

Love you to infinity and beyond! The moon is much closer than we know! 😘

You Are a Supermom

It’s not easy…. It’s not easy juggling everything at once. It’s not easy easy wearing many hats.. Juggling a career… juggling the family household…. taking care of the kids… making sure your duties as a wife are being met! It’s not easy…. Somewhere around all that busyness we lose track of ourselves and our purpose… That’s the trick, knowing that your doing your best and that your not comparing yourself to your neighbour. The truth is you don’t know what they are going thru…. You don’t know their struggles…

You don’t know if they have it all together in the first place… They can actually think that your the one that has it all together! Don’t worry if those dishes aren’t put away from the sink. Or if your bed is not made! Enjoy your journey! Enjoy your time for yourself where you can just relax and unwind…

There’s no such thing as a supermom…. What works for one might not work for another! Nothing is written in stone! Usually the ones that give all the advice are precisely the ones that don’t even have kids in the first place….and we all know a few that are always ready to point fingers but never take action upon their words!

Listen to your heart! You know your child and if you have more than one, like I do you’ll know that each child is different. Each child has different needs at different times… To your child, you are the Supermom! You are their protector! If something doesn’t work for you, try something else! You got this! 😘✨🌟⭐️

One of the best ways of living is being outside enjoying the scenery…. Being in touch with nature… Travelling to new and exciting places. Listening to the birds sing their joyous songs. It’s not easy going places with three small kids but it’s worth every second… as they return home with a different attitude… It’s amazing what the sun does… just a few minutes outside under the sunlight restores your soul and gives you a whole new energy to conquer anything that comes your way! Don’t you agree? The winter has been long and gloomy but with birds chirping it’s a sure sign that the worst has come to pass! Enjoy your days that get longer by the hour… the trouble with that is kids won’t want to sleep at their usual time as they see it’s still light out! Happy memories as you embark on your journey. We all have our path to take and with time and patience we will get to our destination, one step at a time!

You Are Capable

IMG_6686Everybody does their best with what they have. Some seem to have it all together and figured out, and if they do more power to them. What really matters is that we all find what works for us. Everybody knows what works for one doesn’t mean it will work for another. You have to try different methods before noticing the one that works best for you! This could mean with anything but right now I am referring to parenting styles. It’s not easy. Children don’t come with manuals. There’s no “on” or “off” switch. You can’t tape their mouths shut when they’re talking too much. You can’t miraculously give them something to make them sleep when you want them to. They just have to do things on their own, at their own pace and timetable. You could even have more than one kid, they are not going to be alike. Some more obedient others more disobedient. Some more talkative others more kept to themselves. Some who will play by the rules while others will be the ones in timeout for breaking those set rules. Don’t ever let anyone judge you! Telling you your not good enough or capable of. You are capable. Your a mother or father and you know what’s right for your child, not your parents or in laws, or brothers or sisters, not your neighbours or colleagues, not even any stranger you catch giving you mean glares! In a perfect world they would always be in bed in time and wake up earlier for school. Their toys and clothes would be picked up and they would have the outfit for the next day already prepared. In a perfect world they would use all their utensils properly without dropping a single pea or grain of rice on the floor. They would eat with their mouths closed and pay attention to your every word! Sometimes things don’t work out as we had hoped but there’s always a next time to give it another shot. Or a lesson to learn about what’s not working. Trial and error is a perfect way to find your way of doing things! Only you know what works for you and why it does! Keep at it, you’ll always find a way! ❤️️

Image by “sheknows”!

IMG_6672Good Morning… The first thing to remember is that you received another day! Be grateful! Another day to fulfill your destiny! Another day to shine bright! Another day for a fresh start to make things right! Don’t focus on what you don’t have but rather on what you do! You really have a lot to be grateful! ❤️️

Being Called Mom Is My Greatest Blessing <3

That’s when you know you did something good/right in your life! Very Blessed! Very grateful to God, despite my mistakes he let me be a mother! Happy Mother’s Day to all the beautiful moms out there, in this world and the other! You’re never forgotten!

#happymothersday

IMG_6240Everything that has happened to you, good and bad, has brought you exactly to this moment! You are very important! This moment is all you have to be truly happy and to make your dreams a reality! Don’t wait for the perfect day to be happy! The Universe needs more people like you! 💫👏✨🌟

Take Responsibility


What do you think 💭 about? Do you think about what your lacking and your problems? Or do you think 💭 about what you have and how grateful you are to have all these things? Do you really sit down and count your Blessings or are you still stuck in thinking about the things your missing?

Great philosophers think that the more we think of something whether it is positive or negative we are actually pushing for more of it in our lives. The Universe is giving you back everything you are thinking about! If your thinking about what your missing and how much problems you have, then that’s exactly what your going to get, more lack of and more problems!

We might not know everything that we need to know, probably if we did we probably wouldn’t be here in this world!

Things happen to us every day, what we make of the situation with what happens is what is going to be all the difference in the world! We can disapprove and be disappointed and play the role of a victim or we can get up from our fall twice as fast, take responsibility that at some point we thought about these things and they ended up happening.

We are all winners! We all want to succeed and when we don’t right away it is because we are letting others influence our way of thinking. We are sabotaging our own process of getting to where we want!

Keep your thoughts positive so the positive can continue to come to you! Keep your mind on your goals and what you want to achieve so that everything will fall into place like magic!